So I need your major help. I need serious advice. N and I have been fighting like mad lately, because we are stressed beyond belief and I just don't know what to do. And so I thought - why not ask someone else?
I am pretty sure I posted news about the unfortunate events of N and I not being able to stay in the house we are currently living in, in Fort Collins. And I know that I talked about being promoted at work, not in position but to a bigger store which will do more volume and I'll still get a pay increase. The new store location is downtown Denver, which posed a bigger consideration to N and I about where we would try and live.
Our dilema is that my job is now in downtown Denver and his business is still in Fort Collins. Since he's on the upstart of his business he works 10 - 12 hours a day. For the past few weeks we have been searching desperately for places up and down I-25 that's not too small because we have Oli but obviously something that we can still afford. Well, every time we've found something, it's gone by the time we try to find out about it. We have also asked my dear friend B if she'd like to live with us for the next year, since we are definitely not as financially stable as we'd like to be and could use the extra help, especially if we can afford a bigger place that way. This will also enable us to save for the next year since we will be getting an increase in income over the next year.
However, as it turns out, I am basically getting the very short, shitty end of this stick, because there is nothing left and long story short after waying our options and calculating factors like gas, even though it'll be further for me, because my car is way more fuel efficient than N, we'd pay the least amount of gas money a month if we lived in Loveland. To give you a visual image: living in loveland: $400 in gas/month. living in Erie or Broomfield $700+ in gas/month :( Shitty right? My stomach turned over a little bit when we calculated this.
I am so stinking upset :( I do not want to commute 1.5+ hrs a day to and from work! But I also don't want us to have to pay all that money on gas each month. What would you do? Bite the bullet? Put your foot down and do something completely different? I'm freaking out. I want to just compromise, but is it really compromising if I'm the only one sacrificing? And I do want us to save money and have a good financial standing in the future.. but this just sucks :( Big monkey balls.
I'd love some feedback.
Happy Mother's Day.